Category: Let's talk
Ok, so I'm in the minority on this, but what the heck. Lately I can't help but think chat sites don't really care about their members at all, not as people, but it's more about numbers, competition and ratings. I'm talking about for the people and vipconduit. It seems for instance, that sites where there are, or were nice people you could talk to, like audio tips are the ones that are slowly but surely dying, but sites where they have more events than you will ever get to in a life time, but whereyou are just a name in a room if you aren't part of their setthrive. I liked the family chat room on audio tips, nbecause it was the least cliquish, and anyone talked to anyone who happened to be there, but certain people have taken it over, whom I am not too comfortabloe being with, but I won't go there. It's not quite there yet, but I seriously think in time, vipconduit will get just like for the people. if you go to the news link there is the line that tells you how many appproved members they have, 1046 to date, right now. And yet, for a site that has that many members, it's rare to find anymore than 20, 23 at the most, except when they had a huge event in the accessible devices room. Yes i still go on vipconduit, because I just got broadband over a month ago, and wanted to use all the broadband privileges I can, because it's still such a new and wonderful novelty for me, so I renewed my supporting membership for another year. The other night, someone on my messenger list told me some over on vipconduit had said bad things about me which made him curious, so thats when we started talking. Some of them had siad that there was something wrong with me, because I'm always in a room by myself. Well, I explain to people why that is, but when i do, you'd think i'd said something unmentionable, or that i had said i was from another planet. It's simply, that when i go in a room to chat, igo totalk, not to just sit among a group who are so far in to their own thing, that noone else and nothing else matters. Even though I have a fast broadband connection, there are still times when i have to fight for the key, and most of the time, if i do say something, I am ignored, and it's just like i hadn't said anything and am just treated like i'm not there. Idon't enjoy being in a large group, but prefer being in a small group, either with people who i know a bit, ie, people who have come in a room when they knew i was the only one there, and came to talk to me, or people who don't know each other. I have gotten in to some good conversation just by sittting in an empty room and waiting, and talking to whoever came in. Sometimes staying in an empty room works, sometimes I can be there for 2 or 3 hours and noone comes in, but i'd rather take that chanace, than eing in a room where i'm alone in a crowd.I read a quote or proverb in a set of old books someone gave me when i was a child, and there is a quote that says, it is better to be alone than in poor company. I can modify that statement by saying, it's better to be alone thanto be alone in a crowd. My first reaction when i was told thiswas to go in every room where people were just to prove nothing was wrong with me, but then, if i went in following people from room to room, they'd then say, oh, now wonderwoman is so desperate not to be in a room by herself, she's following people around. Of course the fact i'm in a room by myself a lot doesn't mean there is something wrong with me, and I don't need to prove it to anyone. I just resent people spreading things like that when I don't do anything to cause trouble, or harrass people. So, since i have a year to go to see if things will get better for me on there, I'm going to continue doing what I'm doing there, and just eek what i can out of that 20 dollars, then i just won't renew my membership next year when it comes due. So, my question remains, is it all about numbers, ratings, competition, and who can get the most people on the most site? is it quality or quantity? I leave you with that thought. thanks for listening, if anyone does read this topic.
wonderwoman
agree wonderwoman.
i signed up for for the people, as at the time it sounded really interesting.
okay, i made a few good friends but i also hate to be in large groups.
like you said, people just get so involved in what they have to say, they don't notice you.
when i was in a room on my own, i enjoyed that, as usually i could talk with someone deecent.
i've stopped going now, loging in to talk to like 3 people is a joke
absolutely eternity,
if there are only 2 or 3 people on a site, I don't go on there, and I surely don't want to be the first one on the site, because then, if someone does come in the room, it's not really to talk to you or me, but mostly just to use us until their clique starts coming in. We all have special ones, I don't deny that, and I'm no exception, but I try to talk to everyone equally, although sometimes it's hard to, and if you're a talker like me, it's torture when you get someone who barely says 2 or 3 words at a time,l and acts like it would kill them to get a whole sentence out.on the other hand, its just as difficult when you get someone who goes on and on for what seems like 20 minutes before letting the key up. I enjoy talking to someone who is a good conversationalist, someone who knows where you're coming from and understands how you feel whether or not he or she agrees with you. I think after my member ship is up at the end of the year, I'll just stick mostly to skype and messenger, so I've got a year to find people who feel as I do, add them to skype or messenger, and then leave vipconduit after the membership expires, but for now, they have a year to put up with me, whether or not I go in rooms or whether I just stay in a room by myself and wait for someone to come in. I've already payed the 20 membership for another year, and I'm going to eek whatever I can out of it until it expires. if the ones who made that remark had said that before I renewed my membership, i just wish i'd known about it then before i renewed it.
wonderwoman
I think that you have voiced most of us old geezers concerns. LOL.. I have avoided most chat sites because of the cliques and vulgarity that goes on in them. And like you said, getting into a conversation on an established chat room is damn near impossible. I find I have a hard time following conversations because it seems like there are 5 or six cliques talking about 5 or 6 different things at once. I joined this site hoping to find something different but so far it is the same on here. I have tried to initiate conversation in quicknotes and get ignored all the time. There are so few sites that are accessible to us and when I find one I get so tickled then invariably disappointed. Oh well. I guess it is time for the granny to bow out gracefully. Hehe
there's nothing wrong with what you said Tanja. I am in full agreement with you, and I'm going to say something which if it happened, people here would think it was upsetting the apple cart, but the only thing wrong with this site is there aren't enough older people, but thats noones fault. I've even left for a long time for that reason, but talking on the boards here is a bit different because I can just post my comment and leave. I went in thelounge on vipconduit, which isn't as bad as it sounds. they have a few adult rooms on there, but its more pg rated, so they don't get vulgar in there. If i see one or 2 people I know, or who were friendly to me when i went in there and talaked to me without giving me that alone in a crowd feeeling, I go in there and talk to them, and the others can talk to me or not as they wish, and they actually have.I get to talk a bit more in there than i would in some other rooms. It's sort of to be understood that some on here are cliquish to us, because we are a lot older than they are, but then again, on the other sites, there are some in our age group, and I've been in text chat rooms with sixtyish people, and even they are cliquish. I had one person who i use to talk to tell me that if we made some really good friends, we'dprobably be the same way, and I couldn't speak for her or anyone else, but i don't think I could ever be that way, because i've been around people whoare that way too much of the time and remember too well how that feels and how unenjoyable it is, so I couldn't ever do unto them what's been done unto me. And i think, if i'd been talking to the same peole for years, and only those same people, I'd be ready to talk to new people, because after years of talking to the same ones on the same schedule, we'd run out of things to talk about, and the conversation would run dry.
wonderwoman